I never have been quite sure about who I’m talking to when I put my work out into the world. But I started thinking about the kind of blogs that I like to read and what was missing from them. I love following “lifestyle” bloggers and influencers. I feel inspired by their well-curated lives and personalities. But at the same time, I want to see how they’re making this all happen. I’m interested in their work, but you rarely see the work behind the lifestyle. You rarely see the work that makes this curated lifestyle possible.
This rant is just to say that I’m relaunching this blog with a goal in mind: I want to show my life as an independent creative to connect with other independent creatives who are making it happen. I know women are always trying to prove that “you can have it all.” This cliche has gotten tiresome, and you can’t have it all without working your butt off. (Unless you’re like a royal, or something.)
Also, time for some real talk. I’ve had to deal with people writing me off because I’m married. People assume that I’m only able to make this all happen because I have a supportive spouse.
While I am lucky that I have a husband who believes in me, I’ve been single and freelance. I’ve paid for monthly healthcare. I’ve worked part-time to build my freelance business. I know it’s tough going. I’ll say this once and we can move on, being on my husband’s healthcare plan has been a blessing, and it allows me to pay my bills. I shouldn’t be ashamed of that, and you shouldn’t be ashamed of doing what you have to in order to make this dream work. Maybe it doesn’t fit into the “perfect” dream life of an independent creative, but when you’re working to build something on your own, you take what you can get and you make it happen.